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Emotional stability is the sexiest quality in a fellow human being
It’s what we’re all thinking when we scroll through dating profiles:
“His arm muscles look extra bulgy holding that giant marlin on that little charter fishing boat, but what happens when shit hits the fan?”
I’ve read 252 books on dating psychology, have a Ph.D. in human behavior, and interviewed over 10,000 eager participants aged 16 to 96…
Just kidding. I didn’t do any of that.
As a single human female with firsthand knowledge of the current dating scene, and a friend to many tangled up in the same position, I can attest to the fact that there’s one single, shining quality we’re all holding out for:
Emotional stability.
More than a ripped torso and a full head of hair. More than a stable, salaried income. More than a “drama-free” (yeah, right) relationship with their child’s other parent.
What people want from other people is the kind of health and well-being that shows up when things get weird and serious and all kinds of real. People want that stickwithable quality because it feels safe. People want to feel safe in relationships, more than anything else.
