Jennie, I loved this. Hilarious, raw, and the kind of advice I want to pass on (which I did — I already sent your article to several strong female friends having no luck on the apps). I’m also now regretting the renovation work I did on my “bitchy” profile that had been getting me plenty of action with decent men. I thought I needed to be softer, because I was grieving and that made ME softer. When I go back to my dating apps, I’m going to take your advice, which agrees with my gut, and let my freak flag fly.