As a parent, I read your comments like a barrage of judgment. Maybe that’s not what you intended, but the point in this essay was that we need a whole lot less of that.

What if you reframed your thoughts to consider what worked for you as a parent, or what worked for your own parents (or didn’t), and how that affected you as a child? Because unless you live with someone, it’s really hard to sufficiently understand their parenting, their values, their growth. If all you consider is the child’s behavior and a few instances of how you saw them parent, you don’t have the full picture.