Agreed. We all have to decide for ourselves what we will do with our trauma. Unfortunately, macho culture tells men the right way to deal with it is to channel their rage into destroying something/someone, instead of doing the inner work necessary to accept the pain and heal from it.

I don’t know if you’re a podcast person, but this episode — especially the part about the oil rig workers — illustrates what happens when men like the kind you describe have to face their demons… as a work experiment.